Unhappy kids will try damn near anything they can think of as they strive to get what they need from the people who are responsible for their very existence. When little or none of it works, the result is despair. But because the despair is still mixed with unrealistic and relentless hope, they cannot avail themselves of the one good thing that despair has to offer: release from the exhausting misery of relentless hope. Letting go of relentless, unrealistic hopes can liberate you into genuine forms of problem-solving in the real world—with results that come from you, not from idealized parents whop never appear. You give up empty hopes in exchange for full experiences.
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